Dream Surviver



Breaking The Male Code: After Steubenville, A Call To Action

 (Left to Right): Peter Buffett, Jimmie Briggs, Joe Ehrmann, Tony Porter,
 Dave Zirin and Moderator Eve Ensler.



Sex positivity means many things, but it does not mean that all sex is positive or enjoyable.



Piñata by Pages Matam (x)

Tumblr gets all the wins for spreading the word on so many issues that need more attention. 


Three days and seventeen hours left to buy a shirt. Go, go, go! (Click on the photo above!)


Three days and seventeen hours left to buy a shirt. Go, go, go! (Click on the photo above!)




    I came across “Project Unbreakable” when it started in October 2011. it is a simple and powerful project, where survivors of sexual assault hold a poster with a quote from their attacker (and/or reactions from family/friends/judicial system). *Trigger warning for sexual assault, child abuse, secondary trauma*

The founder of the project, Grace Brown, had to hire interns to handle the volume of survivors coming forward with stories across the United States. The fact that “Project Unbreakable” has taken off is both a testament to the strength of survivors and evidence of the pervasiveness of sexual violence.

We need to challenge how shockingly commonplace sexual domination is in our culture.

We need to stop excusing domination, aggression, and sexual entitlement as just part of “boys being boys”.

We need to celebrate boys and men who respect women and go against the grain of “traditional” masculinity.

We need to hear these survivor stories and make them louder and more powerful than the victim-blaming narratives, which persistently shame victims into isolated silence and encourage perpetrators to carry on without consequence.

It’s actually really astonishing how people react when you confide in them about being sexually abused.  You think the person you’d be able to confide in, the person who should have helped you, would do just that and help you.  But instead they shove it under the rug and try to take care of the situation themselves.  Then you’re told that your worries are silly and you shouldn’t feel this way.  People have it worse than you have had it, you’ve got a pretty good life.  Then it’s, like, never supposed to be brought up again, like it’s this dirty secret and you’re afraid telling anyone else would get said people in huge trouble and you are just waiting for things to get better but you’re just a ball of nerves and resentment now.

I had a nightmare about my 11 year old sister getting raped. I woke up hysterically crying and the dream has stayed with me. She is verbally abused by her father. Was the dream a wake up call that something needs to be done? or was it a warning that something will happen?

When I think about it, my mom and I have been the perfect victims, and in my sister, we have also created the perfect victim.

She is quiet and timid. She is obedient. She keeps secrets well. She doesn’t stand up for herself. She cannot speak up. She has no one to turn to who can actually stand up and make a difference.


untitled by clara z on Flickr.


untitled by clara z on Flickr.

blackbird singing in the dead of night

blackbird singing in the dead of night

Can I give myself just one more second chance? And put my trust in love, Please don’t hurt me. If I make myself like a feather in you hand And put my trust in love, Please don’t hurt me.


Rebecca Ferguson, Teach Me How To Be Loved

It’s like im a glass tree and at my core there’s a drill breaking me, and every little branch that grows is cracked, the only way to truly fix each branch simultaneously is to get that drill out.
"Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all"

-Whitney Houston